Before you read this, let me just say that these are my observations and do not in any way apply to all women.
Women are always right. And even when they aren’t right, if they think they are right, then they are. Women also have a way of wording things so that she is right no matter what. If she says she feels like you are ignoring her, there’s no way that can be “wrong”. I’m not trying to be better here this paragraph was written by a woman and rings true based on my experience. That doesn’t mean it is however. Women are complicated and wonderful creatures, that I freely admit are a mystery to me.
Women can change their minds. The wheelchair is a chick magnet. But 6-8 weeks into a relationship, if you speak the words that you find HER attractive, she freaks out. “Spark” means something completely different to the women I have met than what it means to me. I think most women I have met were attracted to me in the beginning. Somewhere along the way most have decided that they would rather have me as a friend then get romantic. In my experience, women have always decided the path of my relationship to them. Meaning, I can find a woman attractive and want to date her. In most cases however the woman has had final say, on whether anything beyond friendship happens or not. I guess this is the way it should be. I’m not gay so I have no idea how this works with gay couples, but I have to think it must be similar. This is not a pity post. This is something I have struggled with in my life. Having a woman look at you and say “I want to be your friend, that’s not enough for you I’m sorry”. Every time this has ever happened to me, I have thought” wait, doesn’t what I want matter” what they want is important also of course, it’s just that the entire process has never seemed very balanced to me. This is probably the one area of my life that I have a little voice in my head saying “I wonder if it’s because of the chair” everyone struggles with self-confidence. I have an almost arrogant belief in myself in every other aspect of my life. I have succeeded with women before, but even after success being “friend zoned” always gets to me.
My point with this post is that we all have kryptonite. I created this blog to motivate and inspire you. So it may seem strange that I would point out my self confidence issue but as the front page clearly states ” we all have issues” how do you deal with them is what matters.
I have female friends that will tell you, I never give up. If I’m attracted to someone it never really goes away. I never get tired of trying to show a woman that I’m worth her time. I think most people give up too soon on the things that they want. I’m not saying you should be a stalker, or that you should get stuck on one person. what I am saying is the phrase “if it is meant to be it will happen” is only true in any situation if you’re willing to put in the time and effort to show that you’re worth it. Doesn’t matter if you’re talking about a potential love interest or a job you want. Everything in life that is worth doing takes time and effort. The amount of time and effort you’re willing to put in before you decide to move on to the next great thing is up to you.